Recently, an incident took place in Panchkula, Haryana, which shocked everyone. Here an 8-year-old boy beat up a 6-year-old girl so brutally in the classroom and also gave several blows on her face with a brick, after which the girl was seriously injured. This incident made everyone think about how such small children could be so violent. In such a situation, it is necessary to raise all kinds of questions about their upbringing in the mind of parents. In fact, good upbringing of children does not just mean teaching them to protect themselves, but also to teach them to handle their anger and emotions in the right way.
It’s not wrong to be angry, but it’s wrong to hurt someone
Teach children to understand their emotions first. Tell them that it is absolutely normal to get angry, get upset with something or express their displeasure. But that doesn’t mean they kill, push or hurt someone. Whenever the child is angry, motivate him to calm down and speak his mind. Explain to him that he may refuse to do something, but it is not right to harm another child.
Teach children to speak their mind
Many times children are not able to tell their problems properly and start beating in anger. So teach them words and sentences from a young age, with the help of which they can speak their point of view in a clear way. Like- ‘Stop, I don’t like it’, ‘Don’t bother me’ or ‘I will tell this to my parents.’ Explain to the child that if someone is not listening to him, he can tell his problem to a trusted elder instead of quietly endured.
Teach how to ask for help when you feel threatened
It is very important to convince the children that if someone is killing, threatening or trying to hurt them, then it is not necessary to stop and fight there. Ask them to get away from that place in such a situation and immediately ask for help from a teacher, parents or trusted elders. Also, tell a bigger not to tell their problems. It is wise to ask for help for your safety and there is nothing to feel ashamed of.
Take care of your behavior in front of children
Children learn more what they see in their homes every day. If parents shout, beat or threaten to speak at small things, the child can also understand how to solve it. So try to handle your anger in front of the child. Talk calmly when there is disagreement and also apologize if you make a mistake. Remember, our own behavior is more affected than explaining to children.
